DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH I love my husband, I couldn’t stop lying to him about my money issues.
When I wrote to you, he’d just discovered that I had longstanding secret debts.
I’m 31 and he’s 35. We have been married for five years.
Before I met him, I got into a mess with credit cards and took out a big loan to pay them off.
The monthly repayments still eat up half my income.
I lied because I was ashamed.
He was furious – not so much about the money, but the fact I’d concealed the truth.
I come from a family where everyone let me down and hurt me, so lying became second nature – a way to protect myself.
You advised me to get counselling to help with my childhood trauma, and also to be honest with my husband and have some relationship therapy with him.
Your counselling support pack told me where to access it.
You also sent me your debt support pack.
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Things are so much better now. I’m getting help to pay my debts, and my husband has been very supportive.
We’re having counselling and I’m slowly opening up and learning to trust.
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