I'm back with ex who broke us off but I'm in love with colleague who consoled me

DEAR DEIDRE: I FOUND comfort with a woman at work after my girlfriend ended our relationship but then I stupidly got back together with my ex – and now fear I’ve lost the woman at work permanently.

I’m 35 and my girlfriend’s 34.

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We’ve been together for ten years and have a young daughter. But she met someone new at her gym and left me.

I was devastated but my colleague was sympathetic and offered a shoulder to cry on.

My girlfriend returned after a few months but by that time I’d fallen for the other woman. She’s 29.

My girlfriend persuaded me to take her back for the sake of our daughter, though I was falling for my colleague.

I have tried so hard to make it work but my heart’s no longer in the relationship.

I’m gutted.

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After almost a year of waiting for me to leave my partner, my colleague has now moved on to someone new, as I didn’t have the courage to leap.

It’s ripped me apart because I know we’re meant to be together.

It’s just the timing that is all wrong.

DEIDRE SAYS:  As much as your colleague wanted to be with you, you were not in a hurry to make it happen once your girlfriend returned.

Accept this has been a hard lesson and look at what you do still have – your girlfriend and your daughter.

You loved and desired your girlfriend at one time and those feelings can be stoked back into life.

My support pack Your Relationship MOT can help.

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