I want more than just sexy hook-ups with my married lover – but he seems happy

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE been enjoying sexy meets with a married guy who I thought was off-limits.

We worked together seven years ago in a department store. I was 21 then and he was 30.


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From the moment we saw each other it was obvious there was a strong attraction.

Our eyes would lock on to each other and he was always very complimentary about my looks but that was as far as the flirting went.

We both moved on to different jobs but stayed friends on social media.

I now work for an insurance company and he is still in retail.

Recently I bumped into him and his now-wife when I was shopping.

Even then, with her by his side, I could see that old flirtatious look in his eyes.

Later that night I got a message from him, commenting on my skimpy shorts.

I messaged him back and we were soon sexting.

I haven’t had a boyfriend for a couple of years and thought, “What the hell. I’m going for it”.

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We have been exchanging sexual photos.

He is such a turn-on and I want more.

We met recently and I pleasured him in his car.

It has happened three times now.

And we keep messaging, as there’s a strong connection and the age gap no longer seems an issue.

What I really want is to get him into bed and have full sex with him.

But he won’t risk coming to my place because a friend of his lives two doors down.

I do feel guilty because of his wife, but I can’t stop this desire.

He seems happy in his marriage and I think they are planning a family, so what is going through his mind?

He said he had always fancied me but how can he love his wife and want me too.

DEIDRE SAYS: Because he is a cheat and has no conscience.

There’s always been a spark between you but that doesn’t mean either of you have to act on it.

You are worth more than being his booty call.

You have no future with this man and ultimately you are going to get hurt.

If you have come to realise you would like a relationship with someone, don’t hold on to this dead-end connection, where you risk breaking up a marriage.

Hold out for someone who is res­pectful and loving and who will make you the top priority, not his bit on the side.

My support pack Your Lover Not Free? will show you how to bring things to a close to give you damage limitation.

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